Why are (exclusively) breastfeeding moms so mean to non-exclusive BF or formula feeding moms?

Why are (exclusively) breastfeeding moms so mean to non-exclusive BF or formula feeding moms?

When I got pregnant  was like “of course I will breastfeed” I mean, why not? It’s cheap, easy and natural.

Boy, was I naive.

Breastfeeding is the best thing for your babies. NO-QUESTION-ABOUT-IT.

And I will support you to the end if you want to breastfeed and I will support your right to the end to breastfeed wherever the fuck you want.

But if you don’t manage to breastfeed or if you simply don’t want to, I will still support you.

As I said, I wanted so badly to breastfeed and I’m sure I have mentioned this here before what a difficult journey that was.

My baby latched instantly. Happiness. It was the best feeling ever and the first time I experienced anything like that. And painful but I could tolerate it.

So even though I was physically destroyed from a long and painful labour, I knew that I wanted to breastfeed instantly and so I’m happy that I did it.

But for reasons that I don’t want to mention here (maybe I will tell you my whole breastfeeding story on a separate one) I had to supplement and after 4 months, sadly, it was over. Not because of supplementing but because I decided to end it.

My biggest complaint in this is the mum wars. Why do some mums have a physical need to judge and shame others? Especially exclusively breastfeeding mums – NOT ALL OF THEM of course – but this is the group that I’ve seen being the most judgmental, inconsiderate and rude towards other mums.

Do you have any idea how much you hurt those who have struggled with breastfeeding and opted for formula as their last resort with your “you haven’t tried enough” comments?

I know I shouldn’t let them get to me but reading how demeaning and cruel and absolute they are in their comments and conclusions I can’t help but feeling sad and hurt. And angry and pissed as hell. Sometimes even inadequate and a failure as a mum.

But no mum should feel like that. You are doing what’s best for your baby and I’m sure it’s been a hard road.

I should listen to my own advice and stop paying attention to these ignorant mums who, for some reason which is beyond me, feel they are superior to the rest of us.

I know in a few months none of this would matter and I will probably look back at my old me and think “ha, how silly I was for letting them affect me”. But I’m not there yet and I just wanted to vent a bit.

Stop listening to anyone else but your own instincts  and be the best mum you can be.

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